Certified Life Coach
Past DBF Executive Director
DBF Creative Arts Director
Founder & Creator of Go Baby Grow Baby
"Im doing it for my and all of the generations after me to continue the legacies of all who came before me"- Ms. A'sha Scott
Ms. A'sha C Scott
Woman of God | Visionary | Youth Leader | Certified Youth & Family Life Coach
I was 10 years old when I faced a tragedy that changed my life. The passing of my mother to a car accident. Never could I imagine living my life without her. I was born in Gary Indiana, on August 20, 1986 where everyone was like family. My mother was the most kind hearted woman I knew. She was someone who helped everybody. Sometimes I would wake up and see someone sleeping in our basement, washing clothes or sometimes getting a hot meal from our kitchen. She would give rides to elderly women and help them with their hair and groceries. She was a person that herself been through alot in her life and wanted to better herself and others around her. Her death left me confused and stuck in a bad place. How did God forget me like this? Later in life I found out that place was called, depression. Anger. Bitterness. I hated when people would say "Things will be okay" "Things would get better" my thought was always "how you know?" "You don't even know me." She loved me through good times and even tough ones. Even as a little girl, that was best friend. Its so crazy how in such a short time you can grow a strong bond with someone. Leaving my home town and all I knew in June 1997, I moved to Woodland hills Ca with family where I had to adjust to my new normal. Life without my mother. It was so difficult to adjust to life. I hated who I was. I was so funny and everybody liked me but me. I picked up a bad habit of lying and changing my image. I would tell people I was one person and deep down inside I was another person. As I went through puberty, the liking of boys, teen life, the growing of a girl, getting my menstrual for the 1st time all of these things I truly needed her. Things only a mother could nurture you on. I made a lot of mistakes, I had problems with trusting people, esp boys. A year prior to my mothers passing, she found out that I had been molested. Also a time in my life where I was transformed into a numb spirit. I moved to Columbia South Carolina and started college at Allen University in 2004. I wasn't the typical school going girl. I had many mental distractions where I was more socially involved in school than academically. I managed to complete with enough credits to transfer and when things got heated and hard for me I dropped out. Not completing the entire Bachelors program I left with my associates degree in social science. I became a mother at the age of 21 and again a time in my life where I needed my mother. As a young single mother, I worked jobs I can always take my son to because I could not afford daycare. I was on welfare and depended on government assistance to get me by. I started a nursing program at Pierce College where I gained my Certification in becoming a LVN. I started working in pediatrics and fell in love with geriatrics. The way I was able to care for someone made me happy and feel appreciated. I learned, when you love genuinely, love comes genuinely. I then picked up positive habits where I started to help others when I was on and off my shift. If I was around someone who needed me I would reach out and help them. I grew through my struggles and always managed to pick myself up and try life again. I've had so many failed attempts at doing the right things and living my life right, so much judgement, so much misunderstanding in my life I was tired of accepting my flaws and ugliness by covering them with Band-Aids. I began to grow into a woman, now with 2 children and doing what I needed to do to take care of my children. I began to mentor girls as a hobby. Something to pass time. I never thought it would become my passion and later a business. I started to see how girls drew to my heart and spirit. I saw that there was something in me where I was able to communicate and relate to them. The things that most girls go through I had been through them. I absolutely love hearing the words, "Ms. Asha I got a job" or "Ms. Asha Im clean of drugs" "Ms Asha I'm getting my life together"!! That's what became my passion and something I wanted to hear more of. I wanted to see more girls grow through their adversities and not just give them a few resources and send them on their way. I wanted to see more girls with mental burdens accept life and understand life. I came through my life swinging. Never accepting what anybody told me. I didn't listen to the ones who told me "I wasn't going to see life past 25" or Those who counted me off because of my mistakes. I began to rebuild myself with the bricks life had thrown at me. And at the same time I wanted to use the lessons and teaching to pour in the generation coming after me. My mission is change many hearts and lives by the power of believing and wisdom. "Its takes a village to raise a child" No man was made to do it alone. I can now say God is real and God is on my side. He gave me a 2nd chance at loving him and myself. Loving others the right way. I started mentoring girls as a hobby, and now have worked with over 500 girls. This has been a journey that i have enjoyed and excited to see where God is taken DBF to. I am a woman on a mission driven from pain directly into my purpose.
I owe God everything. Never having a real understanding of who I was as a girl growing into a young woman or what I stood for as a person. I overcame many challenges. As a 10 year old girl, I was exposed to a pain that needed a special type of support. One that was consistent, loving and strong. One of a mother figure but had the whit of a sister. Being able to handle a fragile yet resilient girl dealing with grief, low self esteem and depression. Losing my mother who was my best friend and having to reconnect to what then became my new reality. Welp, sometimes we go through things just to get through them... just to tell the story. God told me. I am not done with you and your story is being written. That's when I knew I meant something to somebody and I needed others like me and those coming after me to know that. There's no master plan to failure but there's one to success and it starts with knowing and accepting who you are. Nobody's story is the same, that's why we don't Judge a single soul. I faced rejection and suicide head on only to know, when your gone all you have left are memories, but living and making them are much more fun." I choose to impact and change many lives with my story, changes and growth. With ambition, drive and determination there will be less depression, less suicide, sex trafficking, more support systems in our communities, sustainable transition housing, forgiveness, mentorship, more confident queens! All believing that after every storm there's a clear sky awaiting you.. But during the storm we will stand together and fight together as a sisterhood. I am not ever perfect behind my own poor judgments, out poured many consequences. Ones that became my own textbook to life. Just a reminder for all who don't know,
God is the God of all grace.